Oh no! It's another Utah wedding reception
By Lauren Murakami
October 19, 2005 | Since I graduated
high school, wedding invitations have become more rampant
then junk mail. These invitations are a celebration
of that couples happiest and most important day of their
lives. Something they will remember forever and I am
sure it is for them, they get to have a lot of firsts.
But what about the rest of us? What about the guests
who have already attended two weddings that month? Does
anyone even attempt anymore to make their wedding reception
a little different showing their personalities? Or is
every reception the same? Déjà vu with different faces.
Growing up in Utah I have become well acquainted with
the standardized wedding reception. A storybook fairy
tale, a love worthy of a lifetime commitment, shouldn't
have to be happily ever aftered with a handbook wedding
reception.
In reviewing all of the weddings I have gone to this
past year, they all rate the same; this is because they
were all the same. Obviously it's a wedding so there
will always be a white dress a wedding cake, and flowers.
But when did Utah decide dinner is out of the question?
When did the éclair and water become sufficient refreshments
for all of their guests? Every food spread is virtually
indistinguishable from another: mint brownies, chocolate-covered
strawberries and lightly flavored pink mystery juice.
We are all Americans, every social event is based around
food, how did the Utah wedding receptions lose this
focus?
I cannot stand the wedding lines. Standing in a long
wedding line, sometimes upwards of 45 minutes, is not
my idea of a good time. Suddenly being social with old
acquaintances becomes dependent on when I arrive. While
I am in the everlasting line, I both luck out and see
someone I know, or I am quickly reminded how it is a
wedding and I showed up all alone. Then I catch a glimpse
of their wedding video for the two minutes I am positioned
in front of the TV while still waiting. Upon reaching
the happy couple, more often than not I only know one
side, either the bride or groom. So then I get a quick
introduction -- "This is my husband's mother and father
and his sisters and this is my friend Lauren from high
school." Then there is just enough time for me to say
"Congratulations, I am so excited for the two of you,
I love your dress, you look gorgeous," and then the
line pushes me out of it. The congratulation/introduction
handshakes and hugs are as quick as a person running
through a dugout giving high-fives pumping up a team.
There is just no time for being personal, maybe that
is why they have a guestbook, for proof you stopped
by to say hello.
Receptions held at stake centers are all too common.
Round white tables and flower arrangements don't hide
the fact there is a basketball court underneath these
scantily placed decorations. I can see the appeal of
having a reception at a stake center. It is nearby,
entire neighborhoods go there, and it is free. But,
it's a wedding! People go to the stake center maybe
three times a week, so convenience and practicality
shouldn't outweigh the fact that it is a wedding.
Furthermore, I know it's practical to have the neighbor
to do the invitations, the other neighbor to be the
photographer, the other neighbor to do the wedding video,
and the neighborhood kids to serve the refreshments
and take the presents. But it's a wedding -- why would
someone want it to be a potluck wedding reception where
people bring whatever small wedding talents they may
have to share.
I understand most of these weddings included a six-month
courtship, a three-month engagement, and then a wedding
squeezed in between school breaks. But I think people
should save up and go all out. It's your wedding, have
a sit down dinner, get the professional photographer.
Have a DJ or a band come and get granny on the dance
floor. Go on a honeymoon other than Bear Lake or Park
City.
In reviewing Utah wedding receptions as a whole, the
slightest variation from the standardized reception
is refreshing, making it worth wearing a skirt and buying
the present. It is a wedding; it should be a big event,
not just a weekly neighborhood gathering at the stake
center.
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