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First comes love, then comes marriage -- oh, wait! In
the middle there's engagement
By Molly Hillyard
November 30, 2005 | Life is full of transitional phases,
like going to college after high school.
In relationships, you are single and then married
but there is a middle part that is often overlooked;
it's called being engaged. I am in the middle as an
engaged person right now and I can't think of anything
more fun. Except already being married and not having
to worry about making all of the wedding plans while
working and trying to attend school alone because my
fiancé lives miles away in another state.
Being engaged is like being on a fence. One side is
single life and the other is being married. Being engaged
is defiantly not single life and it's so far from being
married. I have often heard people say that when you
get engaged you lose all of your friends. I used to
think this saying come from the fact that you are usually
with your fiancé and not your friends. For me it is
a different situation because I only have my friends
to hangout with. I only get to see my fiancé once a
month for a weekend, sometimes twice if we are lucky.
I don't even want to think about all of the money we
have spent flying here and there.
I have been engaged for a couple of months now and
that is long enough to see that people really do treat
you different. It really doesn't matter if you are long
time friends from the past or new acquaintances you
meet in class. The old friends have their own stuff
going on. All of my friends are living the single life
so they don't invite me because no one wants to take
the lame engaged girl to a party. And new acquaintances
don't really want to give you the time of day because
you are already taken and they think that you don't
need people to talk to.
I think some of these problems are caused by yours
truly. I don't really want to go to the parties and
meet new people. I would rather sit at home and talk
on the phone to my fiancé about life and what I did
that day and how he has been. Don't worry we are on
the family plan so we can talk each other until our
little hearts are content, and we usually do. It's not
the most fun thing to do, trying to hold the phone up
to your ear that long and than it gets all hot and makes
your ear hurt, but it's what we have to do.
I think my bitterness of being engaged is the fact
that I am here alone and he is so far away. I think
that is why it is such a hard transition. It's just
hard because I know that so much communication is done
nonverbally and you just can't get that on the phone.
I really can't wait for the time to go by and December
to roll in. I hate feeling like I am just trying to
past time. I would love to just enjoy this time and
live in the moment but its hard when you are waiting
to get married. I am excited for the day when I can
get off the fence and be on the fun side of married
life when I have my best friend here in person to hang
out with every day.
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